misssara1219's Journal

3:40am: what makes someone your type?
Ever wonder why we like the kind of person to date that we like? I have been questioning this a lot lately. I seem to like a type that is not just your average guy. I love the overachiever but he has to be athletic or have one hell of a sense of humor, he has to be able to sit and have a good conversation, he has to be all about his goals and what he wants out of life. I dont mind if they go off to a college far away , I like it that they are off to achieve a goal that will make them into an amazing man. Here I am, wanting to go to Kent, be a teacher, is that good enough for an overachieving guy? I once had a guy ask me, who aspires to be a teacher? I would hope any guy interested in me would understand that someone needs to teach and be damn good at it. Power couples have their advantabe but so do couples where they are both not only working towards careers they will both enjoy but also maybe towards one goal together. Who knows what is in my future, maybe another school teacher(doubt it) but I just wonder why I am attracted guys who overachieve and make sacrifices to be what they dream of being. Guys who do not have that much lady skills because they have been so focused on their goals. I have a special weakness for the academy boys, they amaze me. I dont know too many people including myself that could live that life but I sure do admire them and think they have it going on, wink wink. I guess the best thing i decided for my New Years Resolution was to not just settle for less then what will make me completely happy. I know what I want, I do not need a guy to make me happy, I do not mind being single. I just am a hopeless romantic who like many girls is hoping that someday that guy will come along and just wow the life right out of me...........life is good! Sara

7:08am: growing up
Mikey(now 5 yr old brother) has been invited to his first big boys birthday party. I feel old. Is he actually old enough to have one of my parents drop him off at someones house to go to a party? I still like to think of him as our little baby. He likes to tell me daily, Sissy I am not a baby, Im now 5!! I do not know what I will do when the day comes when he tells me he will no longer be marrying me. For christmas , he did all his shopping at his school. I got a lil purse meant for a 4 yr old girl, hot pink sequins with a matching pink diamond ring. I had a date last week and he was making sure I took my new purse with me. I carry that purse with pride and he just beams when he sees I am using it. Its the little things like this I will miss as he gets older, but seriously the blackmail we will have to tease him about when he is our age will be so fun!!!! I guess its really a blessing to see him growing up and being old enough to appreciate all the little things he is doing and learning. Yesterday,he showed me all the letters to R in sign language and then brought a tear to my moms eye when he has learned to spell MOM not only on paper but also in sign language. Of course we all think he is a genius. His teacher does say, this boy loves to learn. He reminds us all of Mitch*genius brother, but is more social then Mitch ever was. The time has come to sign him up for his first tball and soccer teams, it seems like yesterday, he was so small that his head was the size of my palm and he didnt even fit in preemie clothes, or when he was 3 months old and i introduced him to twizzlers and frenchfries, lol. So, Saturday Mikey takes the next step in growing up, going to a party with his friends. He will be my age before I know it ..... I love that little boy.xoxo

7:00am: FWB~tips for guys who thinks this a compliment to a girl
Hey, I really think you are amazing, I dont want a relationship but how about some benefits? Are you serious? Here are my thoughts on this proposal.
1 Why not just ask me if i want to be your dirty lil secret?
no thank you!
2. BE honest, you cant get a girlfriend!

3. why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free.........grandma was so right!!
4. What are the benefits to me? you telling your friends we mess around? not happening.
5. Would you ever date a girl you had fwb, with? Didnt think so.
6. Don't flatter yourself, Im not desperate.
7. How can you have any type of physical relationship and not have a relationship?
8. What happened to caring about someone?
9, I think you can pay for what you want, just go down to Cleveland and pay to play.
10. Wanting a girl that you think is all into you to be nothing more then your lil play toy, is called using her , taking advantage of the fact that she might just do this because she wants you to like her, well I say, forget it....

Fastest way to have a girl lose all respect for you is to ask for her to be your lil get on girl. Being someones dirty lil secret is not rewarding in the least and actually I would think would cause her to lose some of her own self respect. xoxoxox Sara

7:34am: Good God!
How can it be possible that today is the birthday of the most loved man in my life and one of the most unappealing disgusting men I have ever met!!! Today is the birthday of my most favorite little boy... MIKEY. He is now 5. Its so hard to believe that our little preemie baby who was under 5 lbs is now his own little person. Watching him grow up is probably the most amazing and rewarding thing I have ever been a part of. I love you, Mikey! Lebron James shares your birthday and that is just so ironic....those of you that know me, know I cant stand the guy. Watching Lerbron on tv last night going on about how he wanted birthday gifts...how about your marry your gf and let your son have a Daddy....I have zero respect for him, Blah.....anywho..........Mikey of cours is so excited because as he likes to say...ITS MY DAY!!!! He was getting impatient with having to first have my birthday , then Jesus *yes, we convinced him it wasnt santas birthday, then finally his. xoxoxoxo, Sara

1:24pm: 2005
horrible year for me........

9:09pm: dating
I have always wondered........Do friends with benefits ever become boyfriend and girlfriend, or do they just keep looking for someone to date. Why is it, you are good enough to mess around with but not good enough to date?

8:22pm: The horror!
Walmart.........with all the last minute shopping I have had to go to the land of mullets and missing teeth a few times and have witnessed the following things......I kid you not!

1. Walking into the store next to a mom and son, he was maybe 7 , mom says, thats it! Im calling santa , you will get nothing but reindeer shit in your stocking!!! what?! whatever happened to coal?

2. condoms for christmas? The man in line ahead of me was on the phone discussing the purchase he was making for all his sons stockings.......condoms!

3. Looking for some socks, I observed a man looking in the 3x thong section......God Bless him, that is love!

4. Getting a new watch battery, I had to wait for a man to purchas an engagement ring for his lil lady.....walmart has engagement rings!!!! woot woot

5. Do Mary kate and Ashley shop at walmart? I noticed lots of grandmas with the girls perfume in the cart....good enough for mk and ashley good enough for their grand daughters

These were just a few of my most memorable moments at walmart this season.......Merry Christmas.....xoxox Sara

1:37pm: interesting observations....
Talking to my friends , I have come to the conclusion that all girls at one time seem to be attracted to that one guy sooner or later who can basically be labeled "The Asshole". I have no idea what it is about the so called "asshole" but they just have a way of worming their way in. Here are some things I have learned from my own personal experiences and from listening to my friends.
1. He doesnt really care about you, its all about him.
2. Call you? Only when drunk or wanting some action.
3 You know he is a jerk but he smiles and sweet talks his way out of being on your badside.
4. He doesnt care its your birthday........why should he.....this is about him......remember?
5. He is just "friends" with those other girls, sureeeeee with benefits of course.
6. He never calls you when he gets home from seeing you to say , it was a great time.
7. Do not ask him something you know he wont answer truthfully, like, have you missed me, did you think about me today.......cause the answer would be NO.
8. He usually has a great best friend who is the guy you should be dating.
which now brings me to the nice guy...
1. They will sit and listen to you for hours going on about the asshole.
2. They hate the asshole and can not understand why they get the girls.
3. They wish they had the smooth talking skills of the asshole.
4. They sing to you, remember your birthday and treat you like a queen.
. They are sick of being just friends.........they want benefits.
6. They call and text you , send you sweet emails just because..
7. YOu can ask them anything, they will always be kind and loving.
8. He is always the wingman.......

I personally love the nice guy. I think in the end the nice guy always wins. It just takes them a bit longer sometimes to get what they want.
Find a girl who can make you smile when you are having the crappiest day and it may be the start of something amazing.... xoxoxox SaRa

10:29am: i should write an advice column
I have spent my time being sick reading every magazine filled with fashion and tips for girls, chatting, watching tv and renting DVD's. I think I could write an advice column with zero problems or hesitation.

Dear Sara,
This guy I really like is coming home from college and wants to hook up with me. He is really hott and so fun but he doesnt want anyone to know we hook up. Signed, Desperate for him

Dear Desperate,
Do NOT hook up with him, he doesnt like you. He is thinking with the wrong head and will break your heart.

Dear Sara,
I recently broke up with my boyfriend. He cheated and drank a lot. I can not seem to find anyone who makes me feel like he did.... what do I do. Hopelessly missing him

Dear Hopeless,
If you want to feel like you did with him, then go back out with him. I will never understand you girls who feel that a guy who cheats and is a drunk is a good catch. He is worthless. Instead of worrying about how a guy can make you feel, go get some self respect and look around , there are tons of great guys out there.

I am thinking my advice would not always be taken kindly and maybe sometime it would actually piss people off. xoxoxoxox , sara

11:00pm: Birthday ....
I have decided to make a lil entry about girls and birthdays. It being my birthday today, it has given me a chance to think about some very interesting facts concerning my birthday.

1. Forgetting its my birthday or just not even taking the time to text or call to wish me well, is something I am not suprised about concerning a certain so called "friend".

2. I loved the silly email greeting card I received, so simple so free and just a great lil thing to do.

3. Being with 4 of my 5 tonight made me remember again why I love those guys, we have a friendship that is true and will be around for years to come. I see them and I forget all my worries. I love them. Thank you to Anthony, Sisqo, Timmy, Dave and Haja.. even though Haja couldnt be here , he still took the time to wish me a happy birthday. You guys are my fantastic 5 forever! I think instead of brides maids for my fictious wedding I am planning for my dynamic relationships class I may have to have you 5 stand up for me, haha. Thank you for making my birthday special. xoxoxoxo, Sara

4. Take the time to remember that special girl in some way. A quick happy birthday call is free and usually scores so many points with the girl that it becomes priceless. Singing to her will go far in the points department!

5. I have one more year til Im legal, lol. It still creeps me out to think about the messages i was getting on myspace from 30 yre old guys. blah.

6. I am so happy at who all took the time for me today. Im so grateful for great friends, some very new and some very old.

thank you all.............Sara

6:39am: finally...
Today is my birthday. I woke up to a large amount of instant messages, emails and myspace messages all wishing me a happy birthday. I personally liked the 2am text message and 240 am phone call, its good to know even in the early hours of morning and after some tequilla, I am being thought of. xoxoxoxox Sara

8:22am: the girls bible....cosmo
I sit here reading the latest cosmo and just wonder if the author of each of the articles actually check their tips out before writing them. who makes them the authorities on sex...such as did you know there are 6 kinds of foreplay all men desire.... ok guys... what are they? I also learnd the number one sex hang up for guys....and its not what I thought it would be....hehe. I always find the 3493274923783249232345 ways to please your man to be interesting but I wonder, is a girl supposed to frame and post these with a wipe off marker so she can just check mark them off as she goes down the list? Don't get me wrong, I love this magazine but I would love to see pictures of the people who actually write these articles and also if they have tried what they are writing about.

7:58am: my wedding....
I decided last year to take this class called dynamic relationships..aka plan your dream wedding. We have to completely plan a wedding with every little detail. I think I would make one hell of a good wedding planner. I love to be different and am planning a full military wedding, I will worry about my groom at a later date. It is very interesting to read about the customs of military weddings. No girl would deny the arch of swords. I had to pick out and provide pictures of everything, including the church. So that meant I spent a lot of time on the USMA website. Little do they know how much their website helped me plan my fictious wedding. The oddest thing was I could not find a good picture of an Army dress uniform. I had to provide pictures of what the wedding party would be wearing. So, I have learned that I need to find out more about the Officers Club at West Point, my friends at WP tell me that is the place to have the reception. Its funny how different my wedding is then others in the class. I guess I just like to be different, think big and go for something that would be a dream come true. Having sloppy joes and potato salad made by the Aunts at the VFW is not my idea of a dream, more like a nightmare, haha. This project has made me think, maybe eloping would be so much easier.....nah.... off to go plan my honeymoon.....all i need is a private beach, incredible weather and good food.....oh and of course a groom..... xoxoxox SaRa

9:48pm: its all about the lights......
I hate gaudy christmas lights outside.
I hate all these blown up things in yards.
I hate plastic santas and snowmen.
I hate huge colored lights.
I hate my neighborhood and how they try to out do eachother, its so bright we need to close our blinds to sleep at night.
I hate blinking lights.


I love tacky inside christmas decorations.
I love tacky tinsel christmas trees.
I love the way we have 4 strings of lights outside so that mikey would stop bawling and being worried about if Santa would see our house.
I love shaking wrapped gifts.
I love christmas goodies.
I love driving around and thinking omg can they get any more lights on this yard..........bah humbug.


just some more of my least favorite and favorite things..........5 shopping days til my birthday.........hint hint........haha, jk

7:21am: single girl's tips for guys.....
You never really know the guy til you break up with him. He either turns into the complete asshole he was hiding inside or he stays the amazing guy he was when you dated him.

Guys either get it or they dont when it comes to how to pick a girl up for a date. Some guys sit in the driveway and honk, other guys know to get out of the car, come to the door, great you with a hug and walk you to the car and OPEN the door for you.

Kissing....it seems they are either starving and go for eating your face off and drowning you in spit(excuse me I must gag) or they are amazing at it. Sometimes you have the reluctant kisser who thinks kissing is the same for Grandma, Mom and Girlfriend.

Sex.....Boys, its all in the words you speak. Its an artform to be actually able to communicate what you want without making it seem like a porno.

Pornos.... Sorry boys but if you think that is how sex really will be,you be sadly mistaken. I have never had sex but I have seen a few things on porns that just make me laugh. And the fake boobs..........keep dreamin......and better start aprreciating the real thing because that is basically all you will have.

Church.... haha, yes I know its following porn. For all you really religious boys out there. Save yourself not the girl. If she needs your religious guidance she will ask for it.

Fashion sense...if you are really horrible at knowing how to dress, ask a girl who is your friend to help you out. Go to express and get a pair of jeans and a stripped button down, next proceed to Journeys and get a pair of Doc Martins , if your belt is braided, burn it and get a new belt. Make sure you do not have the same hair cut as your Dad. If you wear glasses and little kids mistake you for harry potter(will that is for you, jk), its time for contacts or a new look. haha

The kiss and tell.........guys who love to tell ever single detail of what has happened with a girl..... will never be with a decent girl because we are too smart to be with guys like that.

Myspace... sending a girl, you do not know a message that says.... you are smokin hott wanna bang....will get you deleted. Are you serious when you send these? What girl would say, jeeze thanks ,SURE! I think you can tell a lot about someone by their myspace. If its screaming slut or manwhore, you probably are one.

Bitterness.....if you are mean and bitter and hate life...then keep it to yourself. Attacking others for no reason because misery loves company is pathetic and cruel. i have witnessed it first hand and didnt appreciate it.

Love....


Yea, that about says it, who the hell knows what to say....


Six shopping days til my birthday......xoxoxox SaRa

6:41am: To Marky
I wrote a sonnet when my friend Marky was killed. I had it posted for a while but one of his close friends in England became upset when she read it,not understanding the meaning of one line. I explained to her that the line about promises are broken is not about me thinking Marky would ever do anything mean or intentional. He was my dearest friend. We shared EVERYTHING. I was his go to person on the subject of girls, dating, and most anything else. I miss him. I know I will probably never have a friend like him again. I can not imagine how difficult it is for his famiy and friends in England, I pray every day for them. Marky, I am sure is so upset with me still feeling down about his departure. I miss his funny stories, his singing silly songs to me, the ways he said adidas and our ability to have an hour long discussion about how different our worlds were. I miss you, I love you and you never go a day without being in my thoughts. So, once again.... here is my sonnet .

Stolen From Me

People crying, phones ringing where is he?
My heart is racing, my tears are streaming
No one can find him, Oh where can he be?
The noises I hear , who is that screaming?

His friends and family are losing hope
His cell phone just rings but no one is there
The Tv wont stop how can we all cope?
Will no one listen , does anyone care?

He promised me, he would never leave me
Friends forever he said with lots of love
Promises are broken , this I now see
He soars high through the sky like a white dove

Forever can last a minute or more
Justice will win with a loud mighty roar

5:45pm: its a tragedy....
As my friends go off to college, i have noticed something that i need to comment on. Some guys just go down the drain. What has happened to a few of the extremely good looking, well dressed, in good shape guys I once knew.........namely I think its BEER. Plus they are off to do their own laundry, no one to nag them to get a hair cut and the food is not always that healthy. Some of you look more amazing then you ever did in high school, some look the same but sadly some of you just look basically like hell. sigh...........its a tragedy...... Lets get rid of that beer belly, shave and get a hair cut. Its not too late to regroup a get your act together. I will not name any names, but one person posted a new myspace picture and i didnt even recognize the once amazingly handsome guy.........sighhhhhhhhhhh

1:29pm: technology........the good and evil
Yesterday, my brother Mitch finally spent his all his money on the PSP. Mitch is 15 and Mikey who is 4 has decided that Mitch has bought him one hell of a great gift, not letting Mitch use his 300.00 toy without screaming , crying and fighting (done by both Mitch and Mikey) It is driving me insane! Mikey was up at 6 am , screaming at Mitch to wake up and give him his PSP. My mom being the wise person she is pulled the Santa card. It worked like a charm. Mikey if you do not behave and let Mitch use his own PsP, Santa is going to notice you being so naughty. The power of the santa card is amazing! Right now , mikey is happy playing with the gameboy thinger that has 2 screens that Mitch gave Mikey yesterday when he got his new toy. Boys and their games, I have never been a gamer, I like a lil NBA Live on xbox now and then but that is about it, but only if I can have Iverson and Lebron is not on the game, cause I fricken hate him! I have been amazed at Mikey, he was holding a gamebox and X box controller since birth. He can get through levels of games and I can hardly figure out how to start some of the games. I would much rather be chatting til 3 am then playing Madden..........I guess its the girl in me.....oh well.........xoxox SaRa

8:59am: the joys of chatting...
Chatting........its an art form really. It is the shy persons paradise. It is the phone illiterate guys easy way out of having to make a phone call. It is fun and so very interesting at times. You can have the most shitty day and then you hop on line and you start talking to someone, you are laughing, joking around, flirting and just letting time fly. Its a simple pleasure, a great lil escape and I like it. I find myself having the oddest conversations sometimes, its funny how conversations take so many different twists if you chat long enough. Last night I think I chatted til almost 3 am with someone that had me laughing for most of the time I was chatting with him. Its nice to laugh and not really have to think about your shitty day. I can not stand doing all the typing, some guys chat like they are on the phone, they let the girls do all the typing......lazy lazy. I also can not stand guys who use mostly acronyms to talk in their replys......such as ldkjfowruoewurwq, lol........what???!!! come on type it out!!! Or guys who are just wanting to talk about something totally uninteresting to me, like this girl they think is hott, do I care? NO! I like to ask lots of questions, it drives some people crazy but how can you get to know someone if you dont know things about them? I find it so frustrating when guy friends of mine ask, ohhhhhhhh sara so and so is online, i want to talk to them, what should I say??? Hmmmmm how about hello? If you can not think of anything to want to talk about, you should probably not be chatting with her. It is not hard to have an online conversation. Ill end this lil entry with some pet peeves of chatting......

Chatting Pet Peeves
1. only responding with lol
2. delayed responses that are so old that you have no idea what you said to them to begin with.
3 guys how im you, say, hey what are you doing tonight? Then follow that by, Call me........psh, dial the phone if you want to talk to me.
4.Random ims from a girl who im me saying, umm who is this? well why are you iming me if you dont know....well you are on my bfs buddy list and i want to know why...........wow.....lengthen the leash sweetie your boy is choking on your insecurity!
5. Dont ever call me Dude.........hate it
6. Cant stand the ghetto lingo.....
I could go on and on........but for the most part......chatting is fun!

11:09am: More pet peeves....
As I sit here, blowing my nose and fighting this fever from the worst cold ever...I am thinking of more things that have annoyed me about life and the holiday season....

1. Have you ever been in a store like Marshalls and looked at the cakes for holiday giving? Who in the hell would buy or eat one of those? Obviously no one that is why they are at Marshalls, haha.
2. People who have a wreath on the front of their car...... why?
3. Merry Christmas or Happy Holiday...... Heaven forbid someone be insulted!
4. Adults walking through the mall with reindeer antlers on....hello?!
5. I know this lady who would always brag that they only give each of their children 3 gifts just like the wise men....only her kids get like 3 500.00 gifts.... what is the connection here between expensive gifts to spoil her already rotten kids and the wisemen?
6.Christmas cookies.......i can not stop eating them.....
7.Who says , one must have a ham on christmas? I dont eat pork....I want lasagna!
8. Mikey asking me every 15 minutes if santa is coming today.........NOOO he isnt!!
9.People who do not put any money into the red bucket....come one skip the pop or cigs for a day and give to the poor.
10. Christmas letters that brag about how wonderful their lives are? How about a real letter.... Dear Friends, This year has had many more downs then ups...James was drunk again for most of Thanksgiving, Sandy lost her job, Mary is again expecting a baby, not sure who the dad is. Billy is a smart ass 14 yr old who thinks he knows more then me. I can not wait for death or retirement....Merry Christmas to all of you, I can only wish you did not have the shitty year I did.......Mabel

Nine shopping days til the blessed day of my birth......xoxoxoxox SaRa

1:10pm: random pet peeves....
Pet Peeves of lately.....
If you get a call or text from me, its usually important, I am not a random dialer or text person, i dial with a purpose, a simple reponse is usually needed.

Bragging about how wasted you got, do I care? No.

People who think they know how to drive in the snow but dont.......park it til spring.

Charlie Brown's Christmas.......HATE IT.......always have

People who are not grateful for anything..... go earn your own money and see how well you can do without the help from you parents....yea , just as I thought ...lazy ass.

Snow and bitter cold.... I used to love snow when it would be nice out and you could go boarding or even build a snow man without the danger of frost bite.

Buying a box of candy canes and some are broken......I swear the manufacturer does it on purpose.

People who have so many christmas lights on outside that it can be seen glowing from airplanes passing over ... my neighbor has about 1932837137 green lights , its the grinch house from hell. As the anti out do your neighbor, we have voted at our house to not hang one string to piss off my overachieving neighbors.........bah humbug.

These are just a few of my least favorite things...... xoxoxo SaRA

6:24pm: Santa's birthday
Today, My Mom decided she has totally failed us in our religious upbringing. She had a flashback to my brother Mitch being 4 (11 yrs ago). On that christmas eve, the minister asked all the children gathered around him , who's birthday are we celebrating? My brother Mitch screamed..........SANTA's Birthday!!!!!!!!! My Mom was horrified as the whole church roared with laughter. Today, Mikey (4yrs old) was saying, first sissy's birthday, then Santa's birthday then MY birthday!!!! My mom was like wait , its not Santa's birthday its Jesus birthday. Mikey told her, no silly its Santa's day , Jesus gets a day every sunday. He is so adorable.

9:17am: The Art of A Good Drunk Dial
Drunk dials...you either love them or hate them. I have found over time that I have received some very funny ones. My phone seems to ring a lot at 2 am from random guys who after drinking all night find they have the courage to say things to me that they could never say sober. Sometimes they are so sweet and funny, one that comes to mind was from a good buddy, who was whispering on the phone.....Sara , I love you , never change you are one of the nicest girls I have ever met. Sometimes, I wonder how in the world they get the notion to dial me of all people. Are they just randomly dialing every girl in their phone to just make some kind of contact with the opposite sex. Here are some tips for you drunk dialers , if you want the girl to actually answer the phone again after that first drunk dial...
1. Make sure you can make some sort of sense when you call
2. Do not start talking about a girls body and what you want to do with it.
3. Please do not start crying in the first minute of conversation.
4. If you liked me , well telling me when you are drunk and its 3 am is not the best time to relate such things to me.
5. Forgetting the girls name you are talking to, bad idea.
6. Dont become a drunk dialing stalker

Simple steps to follow, girls dont mind a drunk dial now and then. I actually find them to be entertaining now and then. I just wish sometimes, that the drunk dialer would call me sober....sigh............xoxoxox SaRa

10:02pm: exciting futures ahead....
I came home today after a day of shopping to the most wonderful news....Travis got his nomination for both air force academy and west point. It is an honor to have been there for a tiny bit of this journey with him. I can not be any prouder then I am today, knowing all his hard work and stress has finally paid off. It has been a rocky lil journey the last few weeks but I think now that this huge pressure of trying to get in is off his back, life will be a bit more enjoyable for him. Tomorrow is his 18th birthday and I can not imagine a better present then the one he received in the mail today ,welcoming him into the life as a cadet. Congrats and Happy Birthday , Travis Root........you deserve the best of what life has to offer you and this is an amazing beginning on the next step of your life............xoxoxoxox SaRa

7:44am: another view of the dating world...
I love to always be there for my friends as they need help or advice on the current relationships they are dealing with. I always listen with an open mind, think things through and then try to give good advice. Sometimes, I want to just say, hey listen RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNN! I am always amazed how much some people will put up with to be "loved". I will never understand the reasoning of , well he was drunk and didnt mean to sleep with that girl or well, she was mad at me and just wanted to make me angry so she cheated to hurt me. Who would want to date people like this.....obviously a lot of people I know would. I like to live by and also tell my friends, when the fun is gone its time to say NEXT! We are young, we dont need to cling to someone or something that is making us miserable. If you can not trust the person you are dating....why waste your time , his time or your emotions on the bum. You get what you give in a relationship. We all have ups n downs in them. I know people who think sex is the answer to all that is wrong in a relationship, well if i have sex with him, he will want me.....sweetie..........he doesnt want you......he just wants the sex.........sigh....I get tired of reading things on myspace , aol, and live journal about the bitterness, the pain, the forevers of love. Why do we seem to always live in the history of our dating when deciding our future? Why do we have to date someone and think, ok this is it for me? Can't we just enjoy today and tomorrow and take it as it comes? Who knows what is ahead of us in this journey of life. It would of course make the trip more fun to have someone with you but realistically for most of us, the person we are with today , will not be there with us in 2 years. I see lots of 15 year olds who say, you are the love of my life.....how do you know? YOur life is just beginning. In just the short time for me since 15 my life and I have changed so much, I would never be happy with who I was dating at 15 ( no slam to you, Jeff) Dating to me is meant to figure out what we like and dont like in a relationship and in a person , so that when we are ready to settle down and marry , we are sure of what makes us happy. I can give you a few things of what i know i already like and dont like in the opposite sex from past dating experiences. Dislikes~ liberal, drinking that is out of control, treats girls like property, super religious, had no fashion sense, doesnt know how to dial a phone, can not carry on a good conversation, has no life goals, pretty much is just on a quest for sex, thinks that college is for getting laid as much as possible and has no room in it for a relationship, refers to females as bitches and hoes....Likes~ respectful, life goals, smart, athletic, can actually talk about interesting subjects other then themselves, has never had sex, is not bitter about his ex, calls me randomly, is not a control freak, appreciates the little things I do for them, is not the overbearing jealous type, republican,good moral character, on a more shallow note....has great teeth and skin and takes good care of himself, ...We all like different things in our relationship. I have friends who will say, hey i dont care if the guy cant speak if he is HOTT. I guess the reason for this entry is at this time of year before we make our new resolutions, maybe we all need to take a look at the relationships we are in and ask ourselves one simple question...Are you truely happy with what you have in this relationship? Once in a while it would be nice to have a friend come to me with happy news and not always crying or stressed out over a boy or a girl....Just take it one day at time and dont plan your forever, just maybe your weekend.........xoxoxoxoxo SaRa